Things My Mother Taught Me

downrightpersonal — Thu, 06 May 2010 14:26:21 +0000

In honor of my mother, here are a few of the things I learned from her.
1. How to tie my shoes.
2. How to sing.
3. How to tell time.
4. How to roller skate.
5. How to build a tree house.
6. How to fold clothes.
7. How to clean the bathroom.
8. How to play the piano.
9. How to harvest wild rice.
10. How to say no.
11. How to operate a sewing machine.
12. How to make popcorn balls.
13. How to forgive.
14. How to be an example.
15. How to be a daughter.
16. How to be honest.
17. How to be understanding.
18. How to be compassionate.
19. How to be a loving spouse.
20. How to pursue your dreams.
21. How to be spiritual.
22. How to stay married.
23. How to show love to those who are important to you.
24. How to grieve.
25. How to grow old gracefully.

Thanks mom, Happy Mother’ Day!
Drpers © 2010

Making it Difficult to Divorce

downrightpersonal — Thu, 28 Jan 2010 17:59:13 +0000

Our own state legislator Sally Kern is making the news again. We have been told this past month that Rep. Kern has introduced House Bill 2279 that will restrict “incompatibility” as grounds for divorce in Oklahoma.

The bill would not allow divorce on the basis of incompatibility if:
(1)    There are living minor children of the marriage
(2)   The parties have been married 10 years or longer
(3)    Either party files a written objection to the granting of a divorce.

If Rep. Sally Kern is concerned about the sanctity of marriage, she is right to focus on heterosexuals rather than the gay community. The institution of marriage has been damaged by the choices and lifestyle of heterosexuals. Straight people who are now concerned about their divorce rights, ought to be able to identify with the gay community who have yet to receive any legal rights with his/her partner.

Now days, it is too easy to get divorced but there has to be exceptions. Many people are in and out of relationships like a revolving door. I don’t think Rep. Kern’s bill will solve unhealthy marriages nor build healthy relationships.

I personally would like to see mandatory counseling before one can get married and before one can divorce. Mandatory counseling and license to be a parent would be a good idea too!

Choosing Sexual Orientation

downrightpersonal — Wed, 22 Jul 2009 17:44:00 +0000

There still seems to be a lot of people who think that gay people choose their orientation.

My nephew asked his mom (my sister), how it was that my partner came to be a part of our family? He finally noticed that she came with me regularly to family events and she seemed to fit in. My sister decided it was time to tell him that I was a lesbian.

He did not have any extreme or shocking reaction, but his question was rather typical. He asked if I had dated guys much in high school, which I hadn’t, so he thought that was an explanation for not liking men. I just didn’t have enough experience with the opposite sex!

There are those who tend to think that one needs to date the opposite sex, or just haven’t met the “right” opposite sex to ring your bells. So let’s reverse this kind of logic for the straight individual.

1. Does a straight person need to date and fool around with the same sex in order to know whom he/she is attracted to? Seems kind of ridiculous doesn’t it?

2. If you are straight, at what age did you choose to be attracted to the opposite sex? Not many straight people I know can answer that. So why are there people who think we made a choice about our sexual orientation?

Yes, there are some in the world who go back and forth between same sex and opposite sex. It sure seems like its a choice, doesn’t it? There are also many of us, who stick regularly with the opposite sex, or same sex, and it wasn’t a conscious choice.

No, most people don’t choose their sexual orientation.

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